• Guided Problem Solving




    Step 1:        Empathy.


                       “How sad.”

                       “I bet that hurts.”


    Step 2:        Send the “Power Message.”


                       “What do you think you are going to do?”


    Step 3:        Offer Choices.


                       “Would you like to hear what other kids have tried?”

                       At this point, offer a variety of choices that range from bad to good.  It’s usually best to start out with the poor choices.


                       Each time a choice is offered, go on to step four, forcing the child to state the consequences in his/her own words.  This means that you will be going back and forth between steps 3 and 4.


    Step 4:        Have your child state the consequences.


                       “And how will that work?”


    Step 5:        Give permission for your child to either solve the problem or not solve the problem.


                       “Good luck.  I hope it works out.”


                       Have no fear.  If the child is fortunate enough to make a poor choice, he/she may have a double learning lesson. 


    Adapted from loveandlogic.com