• Guidelines for Sharing Control Through Choices


    Rules for Choices:

    • Never give a choice on an issue that might cause a problem for you or for anyone else.
    • For each choice, give only two options, each of which will be OK with you.
    • If the child doesn’t decide in ten seconds, decide for him or her.
    • Only give choices that fit with your value system.

    Some Examples of Little Choices:

    • Would you like to wear your coat or carry it?
    • Are you going to clean the garage or mow the lawn this week?
    • Will you have these chores done tomorrow? Or do you need an extra day to get them finished?
    • Are you having peas or carrots as your vegetable tonight?
    • Are you going to bed now? Or would you like to wait 15 minutes?
    • Can you stay with us and stop that, or do you need to leave for a while and come back when you are sweet?
    • Are you going to put your pajamas on first or brush your teeth first?
    • Will you be home at 10:00? Or do you need an extra half hour with your friends?


    Adapted from loveandlogic.com