• Self Concept Builders and Stealers


    By Dr. Charles Fay


    Builders                                       Stealers


    Focus on their children’s strengths.                      


    Focus on their weaknesses.


    Expect their children to work for most of the things they want.


    Give their children everything.


    Set loving limits and expect their children to behave.


    Are afraid to set limits.                                             


    Make discipline look easy.      


    Show frustration and make it look hard.                        


    Show their children that arguing and manipulation doesn’t work.


    Get sucked into arguments and

    power struggles.


    Guide their children to own and solve the problems the children create. 


    Rescue or punish.



    Avoid lectures and repeated warnings.


    Use lectures and repeated

    warnings often.


    Love their kids for who they are. 


    Love their kids for what they do.

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