As you support your child and encourage them to help others in a difficult situation, acknowledge that the choice to help others is not always easy. Compliment your child when you see them take a stand for what is right. Tell them when similar situations come up in your life and use those moments as models for your child.
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Homework: Talk about or write an alternate ending to the Bystander story below.
What should I do?
Story Beginning: When it was time for recess I rushed out of my class and walked up to two of my close friends Natalie and Shayna, in the hallway at their lockers. As I got there I realized that they were making fun of Samantha. They began laughing as I saw Samantha's face turn red and her eyes go to the floor.
First Story Ending: Even though Samantha is not a close friend of mine we did have an after school club together and she has always seemed nice. I felt bad for Samantha - what Natalie and Shayna were doing was wrong. I feel caught... what they are doing is mean but they are my friends and I'm afraid to say anything or they might get mad at me or laugh at me too. I'll just be quiet and hope it will go away.
Second Story Ending: People are always making fun of other people and hurting feelings. I'm so used to it happening; I just ignore it and keep going with my day. Picking on people is normal.
Third Story Ending: I joined in and made fun of Samantha and laughed with Natalie and Shayna. After all, they are my friends and I have to follow Natalie's lead so I will fit in with their group. I wouldn't want them to think I'm not one of them!
What do you think of these story endings? Write or tell your own story ending as an "upstander".